Couples Therapy in NYC
We love each other. So why is this so hard?
Even strong relationships can fall into patterns that are hard to break. Incorporating EFT principles, we’ll identify your cycles, understand what’s underneath them, and work to change them.
I offer 45-minute couples therapy sessions, available in person in Midtown Manhattan or virtually for residents of New York State.
Communication
Do conversations quickly turn into arguments? Maybe you keep having the same fight, feel unheard, or find yourselves stuck in a cycle of criticism and defensiveness, and then shutting down. We’ll work on understanding what’s happening beneath these interactions and find new ways to navigate conflict.
Disconnection
Maybe you love each other, but lately it feels like you’ve lost your connection. You might feel more like roommates than partners, and your sex life isn’t what it used to be. I can help you understand what’s gotten in the way and find your way back to each other.
Infidelity
After infidelity, it can be hard to know what’s next. You may be angry, hurt, betrayed, confused... Maybe you want to rebuild the relationship, but don’t know how to trust again, or you’re not even sure what you want. The other partner might feel overwhelmed by conflict or unsure how to make things right. Together, we can work through difficult emotions and rebuild trust.
Major Life Changes
Big changes can put even strong relationships under strain. Whether you’re preparing for marriage, having a baby, moving, navigating career changes, or adjusting to a new chapter together, therapy can help you navigate the transition as a team.
Frequently Asked Questions about Couples Therapy in New York City
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There is no set number of sessions that applies to every couple. The length of therapy depends on what brings you in, how long the patterns have been present, and what you hope to accomplish.
Some couples come in for a specific issue, while others want to work more deeply on long-standing patterns in their relationship. So yeah, I’m afraid it depends!
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Couples therapy may be a good fit if you feel stuck in the same arguments, have trouble communicating, feel increasingly disconnected, or keep hurting each other despite trying to change things. You don't need to be on the verge of breaking up to start therapy. Many couples come in because they want to understand their relationship better and learn how to reconnect.
If you're unsure, that's okay too. A consultation can help you talk through what you're experiencing and decide whether couples therapy makes sense for you.
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You don't need to have your future together figured out before reaching out. Couples therapy can help you understand what is happening in the relationship, and explore what each person wants and needs.
If you are unsure about the future of your relationship, a consultation can help determine whether couples therapy is an appropriate fit for what you are looking for.
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Yes, I accept several insurance plans for couples therapy, including Aetna, Cigna, Evernorth, UnitedHealthcare, Optum, Oscar, Oxford, Blue Cross Blue Shield, and Anthem.
Coverage and benefits vary by plan, so I recommend contacting your insurance provider to confirm that couples therapy is covered and to understand your expected out-of-pocket costs.
I also offer a self-pay option. You can find more information on my [Fees & Insurance] page.
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The first step is to schedule a free consultation. This gives us an opportunity to briefly talk about what is bringing you to therapy, answer any questions you may have, and see whether working together feels like a good fit.
You definitely do NOT need to have everything figured out before reaching out.
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Not necessarily. Many couples seek therapy because they want to improve their relationship before problems become more serious. You don't have to wait until things are falling apart to get support.
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Ideally, both partners are willing to participate, but you don't necessarily have to wait for your partner to become fully convinced. If your partner is hesitant, it may help to talk about therapy as an opportunity to better understand what's happening between you rather than as a way to determine who is right or wrong.
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You can still seek couples therapy when you're uncertain about the future of the relationship. Therapy can help you slow down, understand the patterns between you, communicate more honestly, and explore what each person wants before making a decision.
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No. Couples therapy isn't about deciding who is the “problem” or taking one person's side. I work with the relationship dynamic and help both partners better understand their own experiences as well as each other's.
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No. Couples therapy isn't about forcing a relationship to continue. The goal is to help you understand the relationship and make thoughtful decisions about what comes next. In some cases, that may mean working toward repairing the relationship; in others, it may mean understanding that ending it is the right decision.
