Yes. I offer individual therapy for Relationship OCD to clients in NYC. If you're struggling with persistent relationship doubts, intrusive thoughts, or compulsive checking and reassurance-seeking, a free 15-minute consultation is a chance to talk about what you're experiencing and see whether we're a good fit.

Relationship doubts are common, but ROCD involves a recurring pattern of intrusive doubts and anxiety that can lead to repeated checking, analyzing, comparing, or seeking reassurance. If you're spending significant amounts of time trying to figure out how you feel about your partner or whether your relationship is “right,” it may be worth exploring in therapy.

Our work will focus on understanding the specific cycle you're caught in and what keeps it going. Together, we'll identify patterns such as reassurance-seeking, checking your feelings, comparing, mental reviewing, or repeatedly analyzing your relationship. We'll work on changing how you respond to intrusive thoughts and uncertainty rather than continually trying to answer every doubt.

I also take time to understand you as a whole person, not just your ROCD symptoms. We can explore how anxiety, attachment patterns, past relationships, and your experiences with closeness and uncertainty may intersect with what you're experiencing now.

ROCD is a form of OCD, and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) is an evidence-based treatment for OCD. When appropriate, I can incorporate ERP-informed strategies into our work, including learning to tolerate relationship uncertainty without engaging in compulsive checking or reassurance-seeking.

The goal isn't to convince yourself that your relationship is right. It's to become less dependent on certainty and more able to experience your thoughts and feelings without feeling compelled to solve them.

No. Therapy for ROCD isn't about determining whether you love your partner enough or whether you should stay together. Giving you reassurance about those questions could actually reinforce the cycle we're trying to change.

Instead, I'll help you understand why you feel compelled to find an answer and develop ways of responding to uncertainty without repeatedly checking, analyzing, or seeking reassurance.

This is a common concern. Not every relationship doubt is ROCD, and having ROCD doesn't mean that every concern about your relationship is obsessive.

In therapy, we can look at the difference between recurring obsessive doubt and concerns that may need to be addressed within the relationship itself. The goal isn't to dismiss your concerns as “just OCD,” but to help you understand what's actually happening without getting pulled into endless analysis.

Reassurance-seeking can become a major part of ROCD. You may repeatedly ask your partner things like, “Do you think we're right for each other?” or “Do you think I really love you?” You might feel better for a short time, only to find yourself needing reassurance again.

In therapy, we'll work on understanding this pattern and gradually reducing your reliance on reassurance while building your ability to tolerate uncertainty.

That's completely okay and normal. You don't have to commit to ongoing therapy just because you're thinking about reaching out.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation where you can tell me a little about what's been going on, ask questions, and get a sense of whether therapy with me feels like the right fit. There's no commitment to continue afterward.

Sometimes taking that first small step is enough to help you figure out what you need.

Yes. You may compare your partner to other people, your relationship to other couples, or your current feelings to how you felt at the beginning of the relationship. You may also compare your relationship to an imagined “perfect” relationship.

We'll look at what you're hoping to figure out through these comparisons and how comparison may be keeping you stuck in the search for certainty.

There isn't one timeline for ROCD therapy. It depends on your symptoms, how much they interfere with your life, your goals, and how deeply established the obsessive-compulsive patterns have become.

We'll work together to identify what is most important to address and adjust the focus of therapy as you make progress.