You don't need to identify with a particular attachment style or have a specific diagnosis to benefit from attachment-based therapy.

It may be a good fit if you notice recurring patterns such as fear of abandonment, constantly needing reassurance, overthinking your partner’s feelings, difficulty trusting that someone cares about you, people-pleasing, or struggling to express what you need from them.

Therapy can help you understand where these patterns come from and develop a more secure way of relating to yourself and others.

Attachment therapy can also be helpful if you simply want to better understand yourself and the ways your past experiences may be influencing how you connect with people today.

With anxious attachment, your fear of abandonment may not always match what is actually happening in your relationship. You might find yourself worrying about losing your partner, interpreting small changes as signs something is wrong, or feeling on edge even when the relationship feels good. Therapy can help you explore where these fears come from and develop a more secure way of experiencing closeness and connection.

Most clients begin with weekly therapy sessions. Meeting consistently can help us build momentum to work through patterns over time.

We can talk about what frequency makes sense for you based on your needs and goals.

Anxious attachment can show up as fear of abandonment, needing reassurance, overthinking your partner’s feelings, worrying about changes in communication, or feeling unsure about where you stand in a relationship. You may find yourself analyzing texts, looking for signs that someone is losing interest, or putting your own needs aside to avoid conflict or rejection. Therapy can help you understand these patterns and build more security in your relationships.

Wanting reassurance is a common experience with anxious attachment and relationship anxiety, particularly when you feel uncertain about how someone feels about you. You may find yourself repeatedly asking whether everything is okay, looking for signs that your partner still cares, or feeling temporarily relieved by reassurance only to become anxious again later. Therapy can help you understand this cycle and develop a greater sense of security within yourself and your relationships.

We'll work together to understand the patterns that show up in your relationships and what may be underneath them. We might explore your early relationships and experiences, but we'll also focus on what's happening in your life now.

Over time, therapy can help you recognize these patterns earlier and understand your needs more clearly, which will lead to better communicating and more choice in how you respond in relationships.

Sometimes things do improve with time, but if you find yourself experiencing the same anxious attachment patterns across relationships, they may be worth exploring in therapy. This might look like fear of abandonment, constantly seeking reassurance, overthinking your partner’s feelings, worrying about losing someone you love, people-pleasing, or struggling to feel secure in a relationship. Attachment-based therapy can help you understand these patterns and develop more secure and fulfilling relationships.

You don't have to wait until things become overwhelming to seek help. Therapy can be useful simply because you want to understand yourself better or stop repeating patterns that no longer feel helpful.

There's no set timeline. It depends on what you're hoping to work on, your history, and what feels helpful to you.

Some people notice changes relatively early, such as becoming more aware of their triggers or responding differently in relationships. Other, deeper rooted patterns can take longer to understand and change. We'll regularly check in about how therapy is feeling and whether you're getting what you need from it.

Attachment-based therapy can be done individually and focuses on you: your relationship patterns, emotional needs, and past experiences.

Couples therapy focuses on the relationship between two people.

Attachment-based therapy can be helpful even when you're not currently in a relationship. You can work on relationship patterns and how you connect with others without having a partner in the room.

That's completely okay and normal. You don't have to commit to ongoing therapy just because you're thinking about reaching out.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation where you can tell me a little about what's been going on, ask questions, and get a sense of whether therapy with me feels like the right fit. There's no commitment to continue afterward.

Sometimes taking that first small step is enough to help you figure out what you need.

Not at all. You don't need to know whether you have anxious attachment or identify with a particular attachment style before starting therapy. If you find yourself experiencing relationship anxiety, fear of abandonment, needing reassurance, overthinking your partner’s feelings, or worrying about being too much or not enough, we can explore these patterns together. Therapy is less about finding the right label and more about understanding how you experience relationships and what may be underneath those patterns.

Yes. Attachment patterns can change over time, and anxious attachment is not a fixed part of your personality. Through therapy, you can begin to understand where your relationship patterns come from, recognize what triggers your anxiety, and develop new ways of responding to fears of rejection or abandonment. Over time, this can help you feel more secure, confident, and grounded in your relationships, while communicating your needs and navigating closeness with greater ease.

Absolutely. You don't need to be in a relationship to work on attachment. Individual attachment therapy can help you understand patterns from past relationships, and prepare for healthier relationships in the future.

No. Attachment patterns can show up in many relationships, including friendships, family relationships, and other important connections.

You might notice that you struggle with closeness with a parent, have difficulty setting boundaries with family, feel anxious when a friend doesn't respond, or tend to withdraw when someone becomes emotionally close. Therapy can help you understand these patterns across different relationships.

If you find yourself constantly analyzing texts, conversations, changes in tone, or what your partner might be feeling, you may be experiencing relationship anxiety or anxious attachment patterns. Therapy can help you understand what drives the overthinking, become more aware of your triggers, and develop ways to respond without getting consumed by uncertainty or the need for reassurance.

Yes. Anxious attachment therapy can help you understand the patterns behind relationship anxiety and explore what happens when you fear rejection, abandonment, or losing someone you love. We can work on managing relationship anxiety and feeling more secure.