You don't need to identify with a particular attachment style or have a specific problem to benefit from attachment-based therapy. It may be a good fit if you notice recurring patterns in your relationships that you don't fully understand (such as worrying about being abandoned, needing reassurance, pulling away when someone gets close, difficulty trusting others, people-pleasing, or struggling to express your needs)

Attachment therapy can also be helpful if you simply want to better understand yourself, your relationships, and the ways your past experiences may be influencing how you connect with people today.

Most clients begin with weekly therapy sessions. Meeting consistently can help us build momentum to work through patterns over time.

We can talk about what frequency makes sense for you based on your needs and goals.

We'll work together to understand the patterns that show up in your relationships and what may be underneath them. We might explore your early relationships and experiences, but we'll also focus on what's happening in your life now.

Over time, therapy can help you recognize these patterns earlier and understand your needs more clearly, which will lead to better communicating and more choice in how you respond in relationships.

Sometimes things do improve with time. But if you notice the same relationship patterns continuing despite your efforts, or you're repeatedly experiencing anxiety, disconnection, conflict, difficulty trusting, or fear of abandonment, it may be worth exploring in therapy.

You don't have to wait until things become overwhelming to seek help. Therapy can be useful simply because you want to understand yourself better or stop repeating patterns that no longer feel helpful.

There's no set timeline. It depends on what you're hoping to work on, your history, and what feels helpful to you.

Some people notice changes relatively early, such as becoming more aware of their triggers or responding differently in relationships. Other, deeper rooted patterns can take longer to understand and change. We'll regularly check in about how therapy is feeling and whether you're getting what you need from it.

Attachment-based therapy can be done individually and focuses on you: your relationship patterns, emotional needs, and past experiences.

Couples therapy focuses on the relationship between two people.

Attachment-based therapy can be helpful even when you're not currently in a relationship. You can work on relationship patterns and how you connect with others without having a partner in the room.

That's completely okay and normal. You don't have to commit to ongoing therapy just because you're thinking about reaching out.

I offer a free 15-minute consultation where you can tell me a little about what's been going on, ask questions, and get a sense of whether therapy with me feels like the right fit. There's no commitment to continue afterward.

Sometimes taking that first small step is enough to help you figure out what you need.

Not at all. You don't need to take an attachment style quiz or come to therapy knowing whether you're secure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganized.

Attachment isn't always a fixed category. You may experience different patterns with different people or in different relationships. Therapy is less about figuring out which label fits you and more about understanding your unique patterns and what happens underneath them.

Yes. Attachment patterns are not necessarily fixed for life. They can shift as you have new experiences, develop greater self-awareness, and experience different kinds of relationships.

You may also notice different attachment patterns with different people. For example, someone might feel anxious in one relationship but relatively secure in another. Therapy can help you understand what influences these differences.

It can. If you tend to overthink relationships, worry about being abandoned, seek reassurance, have difficulty tolerating uncertainty, or become highly focused on whether someone is pulling away, attachment-based therapy can help you understand what's happening underneath these reactions.

Rather than trying to simply stop feeling anxious, we'll work toward understanding the fear and needs driving the pattern and finding new ways to respond.

Yes. Avoidant patterns can sometimes look like pulling away when someone gets close, minimizing your emotional needs, becoming uncomfortable with vulnerability, needing a lot of independence, or shutting down during conflict.

Therapy can help you understand what your distancing or "deactivating" strategies are protecting you from, while building greater awareness of your emotions and needs and more flexibility around closeness.

It can. Disorganized attachment patterns can involve wanting closeness while also feeling afraid of it, difficulty knowing whether to move toward someone or pull away, intense reactions to relationship stress, or feeling confused by your own responses.

Therapy can help you make sense of these seemingly conflicting reactions and develop a greater sense of consistency and choice in your relationships.

Absolutely. You don't need to be in a relationship to work on attachment. Individual attachment therapy can help you understand patterns from past relationships, and prepare for healthier relationships in the future.

No. Attachment patterns can show up in many relationships, including friendships, family relationships, and other important connections.

You might notice that you struggle with closeness with a parent, have difficulty setting boundaries with family, feel anxious when a friend doesn't respond, or tend to withdraw when someone becomes emotionally close. Therapy can help you understand these patterns across different relationships.